Comments on: On Friends…

By: Suburban Sweetheart

Suburban Sweetheart — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 03:37:45 +0000

I think I’m a good friend. I get frustrated when I don’t feel like people are good enough friends in return… I struggle not to keep score.

By: Janie

Janie — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 03:51:29 +0000

This is such a great post, thanks for writing it

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By: Nora

Nora — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 18:08:29 +0000

be there, reach out and listen are at the top of my list for sure. I struggle with the don’t keep score/don’t hold on thing as well. it’s a tough balance.

based upon this list, looks like you’re a fabulous friend!

By: Kaci

Kaci — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 16:34:26 +0000

I can’t tell you how right you are. My best friend and I have been through some shit and it’s taken us a long time to learn these things – all of them, even if we wouldn’t necessarily use these exact words. Thank you for sharing them

By: Stephany

Stephany — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 01:54:24 +0000

Great tips, Amy. I loved this line: “Don’t get caught up in the petty score-keeping of who called who last.” I can get so caught up in this thinking and I have to literally stop myself with it. It’s such a slippery slope…sometimes, you have to be the one to keep reaching out.

I think I needed to read this today.

By: Taylor

Taylor — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 01:45:00 +0000

I think being there for each other is the biggest thing. If you really care about your friends, you’ll WANT to be there. I can tell we’re growing apart when it slips their mind, or even my mind.

By: Claire Suzanne

Claire Suzanne — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 01:18:58 +0000

I definitely needed this reminder. I’m not always a great friend; I am too easily wrapped up in my own life. Luckily, I have amazing friends who always forgive me for being a little MIA.

By: Ali

Ali — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 00:52:28 +0000

You are so lovely.

By: verybadcat

verybadcat — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 21:44:36 +0000

i think the best kept secret to love is loving people the way they most need and want it, instead of the way you would want it. when i say i want to be left alone, i mean it, so when my bestie withdraws, my instinct is to let her. but she wants to be drawn out, and i’ve learned to do that. she’s learned to just hold my hand or hold me while i cry and not try to chase the words out of me if they’re not ready.

one of my best girlfriends called me the other day. it had been two months since we talked, and she decided to end the madness, already. we met for dinner and drinks, and she confessed that she wondered if i was mad at her, and then she realized how silly she was being.

i need to do a better job of keeping in touch, but i love her that much more for caring enough to brave the silence…