Comments on: On commitment… http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/ Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:14:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: raeleigh/bigskygirlmt http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2867 raeleigh/bigskygirlmt Mon, 04 Jan 2010 00:33:20 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2867 sigh. people piss me off. when they ask questions that are about me and a certain young man that start with "why?" or "but what about?" or "what if?" i want to gouge their eyes out while screaming in their faces "DIDN'T YOUR MOTHER EVER TELL YOU TO MIND YOUR OWN FUCKING BUSINESS?!?!" so congratulations for not being like me. gouging eyes out is not nice behavior. probably neither is the other thing. doesn't stop me from wanting it, though. as jamielovely has said, haters to the mother fucking left. you and andrew know what's best for you and andrew. keep up the good work. ('twas a gorgeous ring, btw.) sigh. people piss me off. when they ask questions that are about me and a certain young man that start with “why?” or “but what about?” or “what if?” i want to gouge their eyes out while screaming in their faces “DIDN’T YOUR MOTHER EVER TELL YOU TO MIND YOUR OWN FUCKING BUSINESS?!?!” so congratulations for not being like me. gouging eyes out is not nice behavior. probably neither is the other thing. doesn’t stop me from wanting it, though. as jamielovely has said, haters to the mother fucking left. you and andrew know what’s best for you and andrew. keep up the good work.

(’twas a gorgeous ring, btw.)

]]> By: Erin http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2785 Erin Wed, 30 Dec 2009 17:24:28 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2785 For Valentine's Day last year, J gave me a ring and a necklace. I felt semi-guilty because I pressured him into buying it for me. Needless to say, I wore it with pride on my ring finger. We considered it a promise ring. I quit wearing it when things got tough in our relationship and I knew we weren't far from the end. After breaking up a few weeks ago, I thought back about that ring and what it meant. Our relationship wasn't a joke nor meaningless. I'm not sure what to do with the ring, it wasn't terribly expensive I'm sure. But I'll keep it and wear it when I think of him or just when I feel like being pretty. It still means something, maybe not what it originally meant, but it's not useless. Congrats on your ring. Wear it with pride. And who cares about the haters. Let them hate; it means they're thinking about you. xoxo For Valentine’s Day last year, J gave me a ring and a necklace. I felt semi-guilty because I pressured him into buying it for me. Needless to say, I wore it with pride on my ring finger. We considered it a promise ring. I quit wearing it when things got tough in our relationship and I knew we weren’t far from the end. After breaking up a few weeks ago, I thought back about that ring and what it meant. Our relationship wasn’t a joke nor meaningless. I’m not sure what to do with the ring, it wasn’t terribly expensive I’m sure. But I’ll keep it and wear it when I think of him or just when I feel like being pretty. It still means something, maybe not what it originally meant, but it’s not useless.

Congrats on your ring. Wear it with pride. And who cares about the haters. Let them hate; it means they’re thinking about you. xoxo

]]> By: Nora http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2739 Nora Tue, 29 Dec 2009 06:06:11 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2739 I have several friends who wear rings on that finger and aren't engaged/intending to be engaged/married and etc. I'm not here to ever judge anyone or what they do. As long as you are happy that's all I care about. Boys who give thoughtful presents? Pretty much the best thing ever. I'm thrilled that you are thrilled and smiley and happy and loved. Case closed. I have several friends who wear rings on that finger and aren’t engaged/intending to be engaged/married and etc. I’m not here to ever judge anyone or what they do. As long as you are happy that’s all I care about. Boys who give thoughtful presents? Pretty much the best thing ever. I’m thrilled that you are thrilled and smiley and happy and loved. Case closed.

]]> By: A Little Coffee http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2724 A Little Coffee Mon, 28 Dec 2009 20:17:40 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2724 Heh, laughing at Gina's suggestion above! Brave post Amy. I did notice that you were wearing it on that finger but I figured that was your choice and you either weren't engaged, or you weren't telling yet. I assumed the former. And I'm so glad you got a beautiful gift given with love from your boyfriend, you should choose to wear it any way that works for the two of you. Laura Heh, laughing at Gina’s suggestion above! Brave post Amy. I did notice that you were wearing it on that finger but I figured that was your choice and you either weren’t engaged, or you weren’t telling yet. I assumed the former. And I’m so glad you got a beautiful gift given with love from your boyfriend, you should choose to wear it any way that works for the two of you.

Laura

]]> By: Erin http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2683 Erin Thu, 24 Dec 2009 20:08:17 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2683 What??? I can't believe someone sent you an e-mail like that. Well, actually I can believe it. I got an e-mail this week telling me that I share too much about my infertility, and that it's inappropriate. Still, what a rude thing to say. It's your relationship...and no one knows the ins and outs of your relationship better than you and Andrew. He gave you a lovely, special gift....and that IS good enough. I am so happy that you have such a special relationship...and if marriage is right, it'll happen when you are both ready. What??? I can’t believe someone sent you an e-mail like that. Well, actually I can believe it. I got an e-mail this week telling me that I share too much about my infertility, and that it’s inappropriate.

Still, what a rude thing to say. It’s your relationship…and no one knows the ins and outs of your relationship better than you and Andrew. He gave you a lovely, special gift….and that IS good enough. I am so happy that you have such a special relationship…and if marriage is right, it’ll happen when you are both ready.

]]> By: Gina http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2682 Gina Thu, 24 Dec 2009 18:08:39 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2682 Amy, I'm so sorry for the negativity from small minded people. Very selfish and ignorant for them to dampen the joy of Christmas and Andrew's giving with there opinions. The ring is great, totally lovely, so your style, very considerate and thoughful from Andrew, and a special gift. What normal girl doesn't like Jewelry?! Or a ring? Is it required you have to have a piece of paper from the State ALLOWING you to recieve one from your beau? Regarding the finger your wearing it on, maybe you SHOULD change the ring to another finger, um...your middle finger, have Leslie take a picture, email a letter with said picture attached simply saying... "Thanks for your opinion. Are you happy now?" Love you friend! Amy, I’m so sorry for the negativity from small minded people. Very selfish and ignorant for them to dampen the joy of Christmas and Andrew’s giving with there opinions. The ring is great, totally lovely, so your style, very considerate and thoughful from Andrew, and a special gift. What normal girl doesn’t like Jewelry?! Or a ring? Is it required you have to have a piece of paper from the State ALLOWING you to recieve one from your beau?

Regarding the finger your wearing it on, maybe you SHOULD change the ring to another finger, um…your middle finger, have Leslie take a picture, email a letter with said picture attached simply saying…

“Thanks for your opinion. Are you happy now?”

Love you friend!

]]> By: She Likes Purple http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2675 She Likes Purple Thu, 24 Dec 2009 05:06:51 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2675 Commitment is showing up. Marriage is a piece of paper. Ask anyone who's ever been in the trenches what's more important: paper or a commitment? I think most sane people would agree. Also, I've seen you and Andrew in person and you're refreshing and inspiring. Anyone who disagrees has some jealousy to work through. xoxo Commitment is showing up. Marriage is a piece of paper. Ask anyone who’s ever been in the trenches what’s more important: paper or a commitment? I think most sane people would agree.

Also, I’ve seen you and Andrew in person and you’re refreshing and inspiring. Anyone who disagrees has some jealousy to work through.

xoxo

]]> By: maggie http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2674 maggie Thu, 24 Dec 2009 04:37:18 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2674 Duuuude, people are weird. Kind of like when people didn't think I was for realz engaged because I DIDN'T have a ring. GAH. Duuuude, people are weird. Kind of like when people didn’t think I was for realz engaged because I DIDN’T have a ring. GAH.

]]> By: Kate http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2672 Kate Thu, 24 Dec 2009 04:27:29 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2672 People need to keep their opinions about your relationship, and your jewelry to themselves. I sympathize. I recently got engaged (wooohhooo), and chose to wear my grandmother's ring, with a wrap that my fiance and I picked out. People are always like, "let me see the ring" and then seem to be less than enthusiastic or else fake over-enthusiastic about the fact that it's pretty small (hello, my 20 year old Grandpa bought it for my Grandma right after the war, of course it's small). I started out trying to explain-it was my Grandma's- as a way to say why it's not a 3 carat Tiffany solitaire. But, you know what-my relationship, and the ring I wear is my business alone. So-good for you, enjoy your ring, however you want to wear it. Thanks for standing up for yourself, and in a way, for all of us. People need to keep their opinions about your relationship, and your jewelry to themselves. I sympathize. I recently got engaged (wooohhooo), and chose to wear my grandmother’s ring, with a wrap that my fiance and I picked out. People are always like, “let me see the ring” and then seem to be less than enthusiastic or else fake over-enthusiastic about the fact that it’s pretty small (hello, my 20 year old Grandpa bought it for my Grandma right after the war, of course it’s small). I started out trying to explain-it was my Grandma’s- as a way to say why it’s not a 3 carat Tiffany solitaire. But, you know what-my relationship, and the ring I wear is my business alone. So-good for you, enjoy your ring, however you want to wear it. Thanks for standing up for yourself, and in a way, for all of us.

]]> By: Ari http://justatitch.com/loving/on-commitment/comment-page-1/#comment-2668 Ari Thu, 24 Dec 2009 01:49:10 +0000 http://justatitch.com/?p=1809#comment-2668 Okay, shame on anonymous. Ugh. I don't think there's such thing as a starter marriage... I think everyone who's in their 20s and divorced really and truly believed it would work out. To put them down and say that it was a starter marriage, that they didn't understand commitment, is hurtful. I feel your pain. Okay, shame on anonymous. Ugh. I don’t think there’s such thing as a starter marriage… I think everyone who’s in their 20s and divorced really and truly believed it would work out. To put them down and say that it was a starter marriage, that they didn’t understand commitment, is hurtful.

I feel your pain.

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