Comments on: Those three little words…

By: Erin @ My Way This Time

Erin @ My Way This Time — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 21:11:33 +0000

I have a hard time saying it. I have a few friends that I’ll say it to. I have geniunely loved three boys my entire life. And I get severly annoyed when someone says “Luv you” or “Love ya” after I’ve said/typed “I love you.” Something about the short version just doesn’t seem genuine to me. And, as sad as this may sound, I can always tell when my dad has had a few drinks because he’ll tell/text me that he loves me. I’ve never doubted that he did, it’s just not an everday occurrence to hear it from him or say it to him. It’s saved for travelling, major events, or serious talks.

Oh, and I’ve never said I love you first. And I may use this as a springboard for a blog post of my own, haha.

By: cari

cari — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 23:09:48 +0000

i’m pretty much the same way too. it’s easy to do it in print, but much more difficult to say out loud. why IS that?

i find that over the past few months, though, it’s gotten easier. i say it to the fiance with ease, though i don’t like to say it too often. i don’t want the meaning lost in routine.

in my family, i’m starting to say it more. lately i’ve simply begun to show my family that i appreciate them more. i don’t really know what’s changed to be honest, but i feel like they just need to know that they’re important to me. even though they already know it.

it’s probably just that saying it is being so vulnerable and being vulnerable, even with family, is scary. it’s not so much a fear of rejection but just being afraid of being vulnerable.

just my two cents. visiting from tabitha. thanks for sharing.

By: Nora

Nora — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 21:56:45 +0000

I say it to my family all the time.
And to my very nearest and dearest friends as well.
But I struggle in relationships saying it.. Irish wanted me to say it more. I felt that saying it more would water it down, make me too vulnerable, hurt too much if it didn’t work out. I said it once and was told “wow, that’s awsome,” as he walked away to call the girl he wsa cheating with me on so I will never, ever, say it again first. ever.
It’s definitely not an easy thing to do or say.
But when someone says it and means it? I am over the moon with joy.

By: steph anne

steph anne — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 08:09:30 +0000

Interesting point of view about those three words. When I was the rebellious teenager I didn’t say “I love you” to my parents… it was more like, “Love you” or “Me too”. I have no idea why it felt weird but now I’m fine with it. With my husband he told me he loved me first and I couldn’t say it back because I didn’t feel the same way at first until a few months later then I finally said it back to him.

By: Ally

Ally — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 01:16:43 +0000

I say it freely with my husband, family and close friends. If I say it to someone and it’s not reciprocated, I won’t say it again because I just figure they aren’t feeling it or aren’t into expressing it. It’s that simple really.

By: Jaka Merriman

Jaka Merriman — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 17:22:09 +0000

I have a problem with it, too, but I’m not sure why or if it’s really a problem. Weird, I know. I think my hesitation to say it stems from being too concerned that other people will think I’m a) weird, b) insincere, or c) saying it for something to say. I’m fairly reserved with my affections, even in that honeymoon stage of relationships, and find that I say those three little words less often than the folks around me. It’s never actually bothered me until my husband, who is so much more romantic and mushy than I am. Maybe I’ll break out of it – I certainly want to stop being so reserved all the time.

By: LiLu

LiLu — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:46:27 +0000

I’m with Hannah. I say it all the time, but, well, differently, yanno?

By: Suburban Sweetheart

Suburban Sweetheart — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 04:53:56 +0000

I have no problem at all saying “I love you” to my family or to the friends who I do truly love – and happily, there are a great many of them. But relationships? I can’t say it. I don’t want to say it. And… I don’t know, I can’t decide whether I even believe in it for myself anymore…

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 03:26:06 +0000

Ooohh. My family is the same way as yours, we say it in every conversation pretttyyy much! And the same with the fiance.

I should probably say it to my friends more often, now that you bring it up! Cause I totally love them too!

By: Jill Pilgrim

Jill Pilgrim — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 00:41:11 +0000

You are most definitely not nuts. I’m the same way, which is not to say that *I* am not nuts because I am, just for totally unrelated reasons.