Comments on: Reality bites

By: bigskygirlmt

bigskygirlmt — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 02:36:28 +0000

oh amy. you guys have been in my thoughts and prayers since you first tweeted about this, and you continue to be there. hang in there, girl.

By: Stephany

Stephany — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 03:13:17 +0000

I am definitely keeping your father and your family in my prayers!

My grandma went through colon cancer last year and just had a PET scan yesterday so we are praying, praying, praying this one turns up clean. If it does, it will be one whole year my grandma has been cancer-free. Starting the journey, though, is terrifying. You hope and pray for the best but nothing can prepare you for chemo – especially watching your loved ones go through it. But having a good attitude about it goes a long, long way. It’s awesome that you’re at peace about it! I was the same way with my grandma.

By: ohhayitskk

ohhayitskk — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 02:47:27 +0000

hugs. if you ever need to talk, you know where to find me. lovies.

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 00:51:39 +0000

If you don’t mind me asking, what kind of cancer does your dad have? Chest ports are awesome, by the way. And there are tons of patients who have no problems with chemo!

By: verybadcat

verybadcat — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 15:35:12 +0000

I wrote this: http://cattails.me/2008/08/bittersweet-journey-part-four-final/ when I went to see my Mom before she started her chemo.

She’s almost done. Her last treatment is scheduled for the week before Christmas. She’s had some damage to her heart- within the normal range for chemo patients, and repairable after she finishes treatment. A lot of times when we talk she’s confused and anxious- they call it “chemo fog”. But she’s almost done, she’s almost ready to go from patient to survivor.

It’s a surreal journey for you as an individual and for your family. I will tell you, though, that as awful and horrible and ugly as cancer and chemo are?

The way that our family has come together to love and support each other, the sense of urgency that Mom’s cancer created in all of us to love each other more and more often, the best test ever of our close family friends and their loving loyalty has been nothing short of a miracle.

My best wishes to you and your family. Especially your Dad. I still tear up when I think of how you reached out to my when my world was crumbling. I’m here for you if you need an ear, a shoulder, or any knowledge I can give you.

xoxo

PS: this is already too long, but what the hell. One day I cried while I thanked my Dad for always taking such good care of me, even though I will never be able to repay him. He smiled and held me and whispered: “the time will come when I rely on you to take care of me, to attend to me with grace and love and dignity. that is repayment enough.”

*sniffle*

By: Danon

Danon — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 04:24:12 +0000

although I have only read your posts, I hope that many long days are ahead for you and your family. The strength that joins a family is bound by laughter, love and a lifetime of memories. I wish for your father, health, longevity and laughter; and for you and your family the strength to bide bye.
Isaac Newton once said “If I have seen further, it is only by standing on the shoulders of giants.” Sometimes, nothing lifts you up like a good expample…I think your father taking care of you when you were younger set the tone for you now…god bless.

By: Emily

Emily — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:11:47 +0000

Thinking and praying for you and your whole family. I am so thankful that the cancer is curable, but even more thankful that your dad has an amazing support system in his family. What a blessing you must be to all of them, Amy! Actually, I KNOW you must be a blessing, as you simply radiate sweetness and love. And that sounds cheesy, but it’s so totally true. XOXO

By: Manda

Manda — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:55:37 +0000

Praying for you and for your family. It’s never easy to see your parents go through stuff like this. When my mom had cancer it was very difficult for me to see her like that, even though she was very healthy and strong throughout the healing process. It’s a very scary word!
xoxo

By: Brian Simpson

Brian Simpson — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:28:37 +0000

Wow. Powerful post. I’m a dad with a 3-year-old daughter, my wife’s and my only child so far. My mom is a cancer survivor (and I sincerely hope to one day see you saying that your dad is, too). She went through the whole 9 yards (chemo, radiation and surgery) and is now in full remission — proof that it CAN happen, especially since she was in an advanced stage by the time the doctors diagnosed her. I vividly remember how helpless I felt when I found out she had the big C, so I felt your pain as I read this post. Really FELT it. Don’t feel bad about writing about something sad and scary like this once in a while, especially when it involves someone close to you — writing is a great release. But back to my daughter. Reading your post made me think, for the first time, about what it will be like one day when I’m old and she is watching me, as you are now watching your dad. The whole ‘tables turned’ picture really struck me hard. Be strong for your dad and don’t stop making him LAUGH. Do whatever you can do to lighten the mood and take his mind off his ordeal. If I were in your dad’s situation, that’s all I would ask of my daughter… just make me laugh. Just my 2 cents…

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:50:32 +0000

I’m sending you all my good thoughts.